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This could work or not work, depending on what kind of guy you’re talking to. This usually works with clingy, needy, and/or insecure men. When you first start talking to him, mention asap that you’re not looking for a “relationship” and you will not have sex until you find a man that gives you what you want and treats you how you want. Wait until he takes you out, gets to know you more, and he admits that he likes you a lot. Afterwards, mention that you’re talking to other men simultaneously (even if it’s a lie) but you really like him too and you’ll stop taking to other men and commit to him when he shows how much he likes you by spoiling and taking care of you. Explain how you want to be taken cared of and treated. Men don’t like competition and they’ll fight harder to keep their woman when they know she has options besides him. When he starts doing what you want, say you cut contact with all those guys and say how glad you are to meet him. Stroke that motherfucker’s ego, make him feel special about himself. He’ll worship you forever ever.
• Choose your battles. There are things you won’t be able to convince him of.
• Research sex; watch porn; experiment. Know your limits, know what you’re willing to try.
• Expand your mind - listen to podcasts in your car, learn a second language (like French, Italian or Chinese) and research a few key topics that interest you so that you always have something to talk about.
• Practice good penmanship, always.
• Go to yoga classes which will help you centre your mind, be conscious of your posture and maintain your physique. Many cities have free classes if you’re willing to look.
• Text in full sentences, with accurate grammar.
• Learn how to cook a few ‘fancy’ meals well. Should you spend the night at his house, be prepared to cook one without making a fuss.
• If you’re a smoker, keep gum and perfume on you at all times. Buy a decent lighter, one that you have to refill with lighter fluid. Never light your own cigarettes - pull your lighter out, put your cigarette in your mouth and look at him expectantly.
• Swear less. People will be shocked when you do swear if it’s a rare occurrence.
• Look in the mirror every morning and identify one thing that you love about yourself and your appearance. Throughout the day, remind yourself of this thing.
• Be consciously aware of how fast you’re speaking. Take a second before you speak to collect your thoughts and consider your phrasing.
• Know good dinner etiquette.
• Travel whenever you can, even if it’s only to cities adjacent to yours.
• On dates, go to the bathroom and take a moment to freshen up your makeup, gather yourself and take a deep breath.
• Learn how to mix a few basic cocktails like martinis, Manhattans and mojitos.
• Know this sentence structure: “I understand that _____, is that right?” People want to feel they’re being heard, first and foremost. For example, “I understand you’re upset that I can’t be available short notice. Is that right?” Follow up with: “Let’s work together on a solution.”
• Remain calm, no matter what.
• Learn a sport - tennis, golf, it doesn’t matter.
• Spend time alone; be independent. When you are comfortable with your own company, you will settle for nothing less than good company.
• Build a list of goals for yourself, long and short term. Know them inside out.
• Watch classic movies: Sabrina, All About Eve, Breakfast at Tiffany’s. Study the starlets and pick characteristics, gestures and the like that you can emulate in your own actions.
• Learn to give a good head rub, back massage, etc.
• Subscribe to newsletters for local galleries, art cinemas, fine dining restaurants, etc. Email your SD with suggestions of things that you come across which you think he might like. Don’t be afraid to make the effort, as long as you’re not the only one who is.
• Make reading the newspaper part of your daily ritual. Do the crossword, too.
• Read more - The Life of O, The Awakening, A Handmaid’s Tale, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, The Optimist’s Daughter, Lolita. Reading will become a part of your daily meditation.
• Be punctual, authentic and consistent.
• get out and explore the city/town/neighborhood you live in so that you have some suggestions for places to go no matter the situation. Also, it is great to talk about the places you like to go so that he can get an idea of what you like
• ask questions! Beyond the usual “how was your day?” Try asking him- “what was the last great meal you ate and where? What made it so special?” Follow up questions show you are listening and helps keep the ball in his court
• When a POT gets to talking sexual, either talk financial or smile and be evasive. Don’t be defensive or disgusted, it will likely make things worse. If he is crossing the line, smile and excuse yourself to the restroom and simply collect yourself and leave. Don’t make a scene or argue, it will not end well. Sugaring requires thick skin and you sometimes have to learn to just laugh and change subjects.
• never underestimate a smile and a touch on the arm or hand. Use your eyes and body language to say “I want to fuck you” while keeping the conversation light and neutral- it is a total mind fuck.
• pay attention to your daddy’s needs! Is he always coughing? Carry some cough drops on you for when you see him. Is he always tired? Show up with a hot cup of coffee or a protein bar, even some b-12 gummies. A little effort means a lot to these guys who are largely ignored and spend all their energy on others! My regular loves to snack on grapes and pecans so I always have some in my kitchen for him
• smile when you talk, it makes you seem engaging and helps keep your voice lively for him to listen to
• Keep your place clean! It seems like a no brainer if your SD is coming over to pick your place up but make sure you burn candles or spray something so it smells nice, fresh sheets on a made bed, clean your bathroom, etc. When you take selfies and mirror pics make sure the mirror/background is clean and uncluttered. Keep your car clean in case he needs to get in, you don’t want fast food wrappers and clothes all over the place.
Thoughtful
Helpful tips/ tricks that i’ve been researching.
I’m looking into being a sugar while im in college, but i want to make sure i know EVERYTHING i can about the lifestyle before i go out there and do it. This is a list of the blogs/posts I’ve been reading through that i think are helpful to me.
It’s a long list. D:
(dont worry, all these links will open in a new tab.)
A note one net worth vs. annual income
A note on messaging on a SB/SD site
How to appear rich (This is extremely helpful.)
Dont sell yourself short, hunty.
Think about this before you accept your allowance offer.
Closet classics (buy these before you buy those hot pink 6 inch red bottoms)
*another really good research masterpost*
What to do with your allowance.
Important things to notice on dates
A note on social media safety (IMPORTANT)
Getting ready for a date tips (makeup, hair, etc.)
Thats all i have for now, Ill add a few more in a few hours. Hope this helps anyone! Cheers!
So I had a good ask about what I mean when I said the wealth scale. The wealth scale is how you can determine how much someone SHOULD be able to AFFORD and where they fit in your hustle.
As you know we have two hustles:
a) Sugar Dating
b) Spoiled Girlfriend Dating
Now you meet a sugar daddy who claims he can’t do allowances; and can only take you to nice hotels and dinners and buy you gifts . hmmmmm.
My key focus has always been bankers, traders, venture capitalists, hedge fund managers and all things finance so let review the payscale that someone successful in a front office revenue generating division at an investment bank or hedge fund SHOULD earn. I’m more shit with medical but finance is me. Fucking bankers is my ‘thing’, you know.
Level 1 - Analyst : When a person first graduates from their Ivy league and walks into Goldman Sachs they are called analysts;. Whether they are mergers and acquisitions analysts, equity capital market analysts, sales and trading anaysts they are analysts.
Salary: At firms such as Goldman sachs Analysts at age 22 fresh out of college earn about $60,000/£40,000 BASE. Bonuses vary but usually $40,000ish (my friends got that). Let that sink in.. There are 22-26 year olds on Wall Street making $60,000-$100,000 a year. Let that sink in because it will let you realise that requiring a lot from a man in his 40′s is nothing. There are 24 year olds on Wall Street earning 6 figures okay ?!
These men will eventually become V.P&’s and M.D's if your goal is to live in Chappaqua and have a Hampton home and be a house wife TARGET THESE MEN. DATE THEM SERIOUSLY AND AIM TO BECOME A WIFE. You have no reason to even sugar if this is your goal. FOCUS ON MEETING THESE MEN YOUNG. These men will get you nice presents and gifts, dinners etc but no cash.
Level 2: Associates & V.Ps: This is the stage after business school. Most men in IB will work for a few years, go to business school them come back and work as associates and eventually V.P’s. Most of these men are between 27-37.
These men earn a good 6 figure income, the best of them are usually married at this point to their hunnie they met at business school or whatever. But many are still single.
These men are only 27-37 which means you can find a 32 year old to give you a pampered girlfriend lifestyle. I always say if my goal was hotels and dinner I could find a banker in his 30′s; and THESE are the men I am talking about. I meet so many.
If you aren’t focused on the cash side of things but more want to be SPOILED. THESE. ARE. YOUR. MEN. They are young, hot and RICH. They’ll show you the luxury life, treat you well but they are usually at the stage where they don’t give big allowances. If you are single you also have the chance of MARRYING one. These men are the GOAT. THE top. The best. Because unlike daddies the chances of it leading to marriage (i.e more $$$$ is far higher). They are more attractive also…
The downside is these men are usually not online so you will meet them via freestyling or via a matchmaker. Many men at this stage want to settle down so often seek help of high end matchmakers….
If you want more info on matchmakers…tell Me. I could write a post…
Level 3: MD.s & Partners: If you meet a man who claims to or as an investment banker , is in his 40’s and says he earns $150,000 RUN. RUN. RUN.
Any investment banker worth his weight earns between $3000,000-$500.000 atleast a year by his 40’s! This is where you can catch out A LOT of these frauds.
Being named partner at a top firm means a $900000 salary, before bonuses. LET THAT SINK IN.
I am a lot more strict with men in their 40’s and 50’s because I KNOW that by 40 a man who claims to be a sugar daddy/successful SHOULD be earning a certain amount. NO if’s not buts. If they are not successful then they have no place trying to be sugar daddies.
These men have the most disposable income so aim for as much as you can get but just always remind yourself that you could date a 30 year old for treats and & nice hotels. These men if they can be bothered CAN afford to fund your tuition (the whole reason SA was created!), your plastic surgery and rent. Be TOUGH on these men.
While you can be soft with the younger ones BE TOUGHER with these men because unless they are FRAUDS. THEY. HAVE. MONEY. And unless you have a genuine silver fox fetish and really just like the guy try and get as much you can from these older men.
If you meet a man who earns $500,000 a year expects you as a 22 year old college student to fuck him for free and prove yourself to him all for dinner and a few hotels trips and drops the ‘not an ATM’ line remind yourself that you can date someone YOUNGER IN HIS TEAM if all you want is some shoes, mmkay ?!
They are grown enough to act accordingly.
I personally do not have a silver fox fetish, my favorite men are men in their 20′s and 30′s. So if I am having sex with a 50 year old banker he MUST give me something a 30 year old banker can’t give me.
This should be a legit hustle.
If your goal is never to work a day in your life, get married and pampered but not get cash aim for analysts and associates. If your aim to to save for that business, school, get ya rent pain blah blah partners and M’Ds and don’t let them even try and play the analyst role. They can afford otherwise.
Warmest,
Thotianna
Look at this chapter from the bible 🙌🏽
